If you love scrolling through real estate websites like most people, you’re probably dreaming of your first home. Or maybe you’re deep in the house-hunting trenches, feeling overwhelmed. I’ve been there—truly. Today, I want to share my personal journey to homeownership. It wasn’t a fairy tale, but looking back, it became one of the best chapters for me and my family. If you’re a first-time buyer facing high prices, low savings, and endless “what ifs,” this story might give you the nudge you need.
The Early Days: Dreaming Big but Facing Reality
About ten years ago, we lived in California, renting a cramped apartment that felt smaller every day. I was pregnant with our second child and dreading another rent hike or noisy neighbors. Our savings? Almost nonexistent. We scraped together just enough for a down payment after years of pinching pennies. Homeownership sounded like the ultimate win: stability, a yard for the kids, and a place to call our own.
But reality hit hard. I had a Pinterest-perfect vision: a charming house in our dream neighborhood, granite countertops, a big backyard, and walking distance to great coffee shops. Spoiler alert: none of that happened. We got outbid on every offer, outpriced by cash buyers, and discouraged faster than you can say “open house.” It took three years of weekend showings, late-night Zillow scrolling, and being way too picky about things like kitchen light direction (who even cares?).
The Wake-Up Call: Compromise or Keep Renting
Our patient real estate agent finally said, “Get in now or you might never get in at all.” California’s market was brutal, with prices climbing faster than we could save. So, we compromised. We bought a house outside our dream zip code. It was affordable, had decent schools, and checked the must-have boxes. It wasn’t fancy, but it was ours. We told ourselves, “We’ll live here for two years, then move up.”
The First Years: Scary Repairs and Growing Roots
Those first years scared us. Every repair felt like a punch to the budget. I remember panicking over a $5,000 plumbing fix and basic updates. “What have we done?” I wondered, staring at the bills. But then something changed. Homeownership started to feel rewarding. We painted rooms, planted a garden, and made it our own. It taught us resilience, budgeting, and the joy of DIY weekends (mostly my husband’s joy, but I supervised with snacks).
Building Equity and Confidence
We stayed in that house for seven years—five years longer than planned. During that time, we built equity, refinanced when rates dropped, and watched our investment grow. That gave us the confidence and funds to upgrade. Finding our second house took years again—hello, unrealistic expectations round two! But we found a bigger, better place for our growing family.
COVID and a New Chapter: Moving to Portland
Then COVID hit. Living through it in our own home was a blessing but sped up our next move. California equity builds fast—much faster than in many states. We sold for a nice profit, packed up, and chased a lower cost of living. Hello, Portland! We bought a decent-sized house here for a price that felt reasonable compared to California. Now, we enjoy a low mortgage, a fantastic location, and room to breathe without breaking the bank.
The Takeaway: Start Small, Think Long-Term
What’s the moral of my story? If you’re grinding toward your first home—especially with limited savings, kids on the way, or in a pricey market—don’t wait for perfection. Get in when you can, even if it means compromising on your “dream” details. Being too picky can keep you renting forever. That first big repair bill stings, but it gets easier. The rewards? Building equity, creating memories, and upgrading on your terms.
Homeownership isn’t always glamorous. But it’s empowering. Start small, think long-term, and your “good enough” house might just become your forever home. If you’re ready to stop scrolling and start owning, remember: progress beats perfection every time.




























































































My buyer Theo wins the award for the single most expensive repair I have negotiated for a buyer. Theo was a first time buyer who was referred to me by a past client of mine who they work with. We met up on a chilly fall evening to talk about what they were looking for in a house and get the process started. Within a couple of days, Theo had their pre-approval letter in hand and we were ready to go. I sent them all of the available homes within the geographic boundaries, price range and features they were looking for. The list wasn’t very long and out of all of them, only 2 houses piqued their interest. We went to see one in NE, and that was a no-go. The second house we saw was bright blue 1920’s bungalow in the Brooklyn neighborhood. It had been on the market for about a month and had one sale fail. The home was lovely with a gigantic newly remodeled kitchen and a large upstairs bedroom with room to add a bathroom. The basement was decent enough with lots of windows and good ceiling height- a great candidate for future finishing. Theo slept on it and the next morning let me know they wanted to write on it. We put together a great offer and boom- got it accepted.


Sarah and Tariq contacted me in early August after being referred to me by one of my favorite lenders. They used to live in Portland, and had moved to Los Angeles for work, and were now being transferred back to Portland. They were moving to Portland in mid-November, so they came to Portland in mid-October to find a home. Before they arrived, we had a flurry of emails back and forth narrowing down homes they wanted to see. They seemed to really hone in on mid-centuries and when we came up with our list of homes to see over the next few days, the majority were mid-centuries. They arrived on a Thursday evening, and we hit the ground running on Friday morning. We saw around 12 houses together over the next couple of days, and they saw even more homes on their own visiting open houses.
My buyers Annie and Ben were referred to me by one of the great lenders at Portland Housing Center. They were first time home buyers and during our meeting when we met to discuss their plan and get a feel to see if we would be a good fit to work together, we talked about the ideal house for them. They had a really clear idea of exactly what they were looking for and where they wanted to buy. Ben works in Vancouver and Annie works on the inner east side so their ideal house would be in North Portland in Kenton or near I-5. They also wanted something with vintage charm- preferably mid-century, and in good shape that would be easy to maintain. They also wanted a yard and their budget was $400k tops. They were still interviewing agents when a couple of days after we met, I got an email from my wonderful colleague Martin Cross here at Living Room with info on an open house a great listing of his in Kenton was having the next day. On paper that house seemed to meet all the criteria that Annie and Ben had, so I forwarded the email along to them. They responded that indeed, the house looked like it was great and they could tell I had a really good sense of what they were looking for, and that sealed the deal for us working together.
























































































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If there is one part of the Portland market that’s not hot right now, it’s condos downtown and in the Pearl District. The Covid buying frenzy really focused on detached single family homes with yards. Communal living where you have to walk into an enclosed building and then take an elevator to your front door was the exact opposite of what the majority of buyers have wanted over the last year and a half. So for those folks who DO want to own a condo in the Pearl, the neighborhood is a pool full of fat oysters where buyers can take a while to look around be picky about what type of unit they want.








My buyer Clayton was referred to me by some of my favorite past clients ever, so I knew he was going to be great to work with. His ideal home would be in North Portland where he has lived for a long time as a renter, and would have the space and bedroom count to be able to comfortably rent out a room or two to roommates. He lost out on 2 houses, but they were not the best houses for him anyway. And when a great 4 bedroom house (2 beds on the main floor and 2 beds upstairs) came on the market he went to the open house and met the listing agent who was super impressed by how kind Clayton is and how through of a job he did looking at the house (he even went into the crawl space!). He loved the house and we wrote up an offer, and thanks to his letter and the listing agent explaining to her seller how awesome Clayton is, the seller wanted to sell to Clayton, but with another offer on the table that was over $100,000 over list price, the seller went with the crazy high offer.
Sarah and Craig were referred to me by a dear longtime client. They just had a baby and were ready to buy a house to settle into and raise their kid in. When we first spoke this past spring, they had not yet spoken with a lender and didn’t really have an idea of how much they could qualify for. I gave them some names of great lenders I work with including the Portland Housing Center. After meeting with Portland Housing Center’s loan officer, they found out they qualified for a $15k grant if they bought something in the City of Portland, so that sealed the deal for them on which lender to use.





















































A referral from a past-client/friend, Sally lamented not being able to have the ‘real’ Realtor experience (where you hop in a single car together and shop until you’re slap happy and speaking in code that both wholly understand) like her friend Corrinna had. But we made the absolute best of it.























My buyer Alison got in touch with me over 3 years ago after she was referred to me by her close friends, who are old clients of mine. Alison thought she wanted to purchase a condo at a complex in the Brooklyn neighborhood because she had a friend who lived there, and the idea of easy maintenance seemed appealing to her at the time. For what turned out to be a blessing in disguise, none of those units came on the market while she was looking. She then decided to go to grad school and put her house hunt on hold while she went through school and figured out the next phase of her life.
